Happy Mother’s Day – Treasure Each Moment
Posted on Friday, May 6th, 2011
Happy Mother’s Day
This is not an easy time of year for me. Sunday, May 8th will be the sixth Mother’s Day I have had to celebrate without my Mom.
A quote I wrote down years ago still haunts me. While reading Mitch Albom’s book, For One More Day, I scratched this sentence on a piece of paper and tucked it away in a notebook. Pardon me if this sounds maudlin, but it is the truth:
“When death takes your mother, it steals that word forever.”
That quote speaks to the way I feel around Mother’s Day. It’s hard to happily celebrate a day created to honor my Mom when my Mom isn’t here to celebrate. My Mom was a remarkable woman. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t miss her terribly.
So, I take this time to remember the moments we had here on earth. I take time to honor each moment I remember with my Mom.
Especially, I take time to remember our last conversation. In that conversation, my Mom told me that I was “a treasure.”
The important thing I want you to understand is that we didn’t know that conversation would be our last conversation. Those last words became MY treasure.
Please remember today to honor each and every moment you have to spend with the people, Mothers and others, that you love. Take the time to let them know that they are your treasure.
So, Happy Mother’s Day to my own daughter, Nicole Dean. You are a treasure.
p.s. This video always gets me a bit teary eyed. I’m already weepy, so why not. Take a few minutes to watch this video then go pay homage to your Mother, your Grandmother, and all the other TREASURES in your life!
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I am never sure what hurts most – not having my mother here to treasure or having my kids gloss over the holiday. Yes I know that it is only a made up holiday. But my take on that – it is nice once a year to make an effort to say “I really appreciate the mom you are”.
I hear ya. My daughter thankfully understands, for the most part, the importance of the day. I think real knowledge comes with age, and perhaps loss, as painful as it is to say that. It’s a lesson I wanted to share precisely for that reason. Too many children wait too long to really appreciate their Mom; and show it.
My siblings and I always joked on Mother’s Day, calling each other and asking “Have you gone out to pay homage to Mom yet?” Then, it was bound to happen once in a while that one of us beat the others to the punch and took Mom out for brunch. Dang! It became a game of ‘who got Mom first.’
Tell your kids that Mother’s Day is a holiday that can really only be celebrated with your Mom. It’s a holiday that is never the same after Mom is gone. Sure, my daughter and grandkids say “Happy Mother’s Day” to me, but I don’t have my Mom to say “Happy Mother’s Day” to anymore. It’s painful and it’s not a lesson I’d want to learn too late.
I’ve been feeling sadder and sadder all week and couldn’t quite figure out why. Oh, right, Mother’s Day. This will be my fourth without my Mum.
You said it very well. Hugs to you!
I’m so sorry Barb. Hugs to you, too. It’s just something you can’t describe, really, and no one can prepare you for the loss. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me. I appreciate it very much. May your memories be warm and comforting this Mother’s Day.
Yes, Mother’s Day is one that is full of emotion for me.
I became a mother on Mother’s Day. That was exciting to wake up in labor…I was overdue and sad that I wouldn’t be a mother in time.
Nurses gave all of us a carnation and it felt really special. What is even more fascinating is that my mother also became a mother on Mother’s Day when my sister was born!
AND, this is the second year for me to be without Mom on Mother’s Day. After four years in an Alzheimer’s Care Center, Mom passed away November, 2009. She had a fabulous life that vanished as Alzheimer’s took away her mind and zest for life.
Let’s join together in supporting each other as we feel the myriad of emotions…. AND grandchildren…another emotion of joy that came about as our children became parents!
It was wonderful to connect with you in person at NAMS last January!
Love your daughter Nicole and am enjoying her new program and posting articles on her http://freeaffiliatearticles.com/wp/ site.
Thank you, Suzanne, for sharing your personal story. It does help to talk about our losses, doesn’t it. It’s starting to feel just as good to cry as it does to laugh! When did THAT happen?!
And, yes, it was wonderful becoming a Mom (way back when…sorry Nicole!), but what a totally different joy becoming a Grandma! And, yes, Nicole is a peach, to be sure! I was so hoping I could be at NAMS again soon, but will have to wait and see.
I appreciate your stopping by here to visit and leave a comment! It’s a treat to hear from you! Take care, and thank you again. And, Happy Mother’s Day!
Patti,
That is a beautiful tribute to your mother…I know she would be so proud of you today! The Push is a two hankie treat!
ahhhh… Thank you so much, Peggy. And, yes, I consider The Push a wonderful tearful treat, as well. I sure appreciate your stopping by to read and comment. 😀
Sorry that you’ve been so blue kiddo. I do understand. This was the 2nd Mother’s Day w/o my mom. I hope you’re feeling better by now.
Thank you, Michele. Yeah, every year is bittersweet, but I sure do laugh through the tears now a whole lot more. Mom was a stitch and we have great memories and lots of stories to tell… some suitable for print, some not so much. tee hee! Thanks again.